Like it or not, ladies, you’re being judged and it’s not based upon your behavior.
You’re being judged on your looks.
Take, for example, the recent article on Today, where they were saying that former First Lady and present Secretary of State Hillary Clinton made an appearance overseas without makeup.
The article said:
“Hillary Clinton addresses ‘au naturale’ liberation,” said political blog The Drudge Report, while trend site Styleite.com declared that Clinton “just wants to be normal and do things like wear her hair in a scrunchie, party with her girlfriends and go out without a stitch of makeup.”
The kicker was England’s Daily Mail, which said Clinton’s moment sans makeup made her look “tired and withdrawn.”
The article then goes on to say:
“While blatant discrimination in the workplace is less common than it was 20 years ago, she said, there are still subtle biases that may be hardest to combat.”
(View the entire article here.)
Although it’s a double standard, you still have two choices: you can complain and criticize that women ought not to be held to such a standard or you can do the simple thing: you can put on a pair of pants that fit, wash your face, comb your hair and put on a speck of makeup.
It’s your choice. We for, one, think it’s easier just to buy a pair of pants that fit than it is to change society as a whole so we’re going for the easy option.
We created quite a stir, in fact, with our readers when we posted a quote from Dani Johnson, noted millionaire saying how it was offensive to print these words on the importance of dressing in our post “How Not to Look Like a Stay at Home Mom.”
“I’m just a stay-at-home mom. Well then great. Go ahead and look like every other 98 percent of the stay-at-home moms, dumpy, lumpy and greasy, with hair tied back in one of those soccer mom deals and sweats all sagged out and bagged out in your butt. That is a culture that affects your attitude. It affects your standards and it changes the course of your life…”
We know we hit a sore subject and that’s why we’re addressing it head on.
Because there are simple facts to the matter: ladies, you are judged on how you look. It impacts your earning potential. Don’t believe us? Read “Why Some Women Will Make $230,000 More than You.” And it impacts how your family sees you. Click here to see Gina’s experience with her family.
Simply—offensive or not—people are making a snap decision about you based upon how you look. Sure, you’re not going to get it right 100 percent of the time, and yes, we believe it’s important to take risks with your style but you should fail forward in a positive direction.
So what are some simple things you can do better fail forward?
Avoid 9 Simple Faux Pas
• When you’re at work, look at your office environment. If no one else is doing it, you probably shouldn’t either.
• Cover your tummy. According to eastern cultures like India, China, Japan, and Africa, the belly is the point of physical access to spiritual power. So why would you want to show it off in the office anyway? It’s sacred, not profane.
• Avoid showing too much cleavage.
• Hide your bra straps.
• Avoid see-through clothing.
• Invest in a tailor.
• Skip flip flops unless you’re in some cutting edge-tech field with an uber-relaxed culture.
• Nothing tight.
• Don’t go overboard.