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The Secret of Mastering Confidence

Ruby, Inc. asked a number of exceptionally confident women what it took to boost their confidence. You’ll quickly find it wasn’t that they magically became confident when they lost a few pounds, when their breasts became even or even when they thought they were finally perfect. It was something far greater and far more achievable.

By Professor Virginia Kugel-Zank

It is a journey to find, develop, and keep confidence. In my experience, I have learned life is a series of moments where you have an opportunity to invent and reinvent yourself over and over again. It gets hard when you have spent a lot of your life trying to be what other people wanted you to be.

When I was young, I learned pretty quickly that trying to please other people would not work for me. That’s because a mother, whose glass was always half-empty, raised me. I’m not sure she was ever what I would call happy. Finally I realized that happiness to her was really subsisting in a “half-empty” state of being unhappy. This taught me that there is more responsibility for those who are happy than those who are unhappy.

Though her behavior, she modeled for me the kind of person I didn’t want to be. I want a life with a glass that was half-full or even full. I wanted to be happy, embrace the responsibility and dig in to life. I learned that feeling good and being happy is a choice I could make, and I hope you never forget that lesson. I hope you learn, much like I did, that you can choose to allow water to wash over you and toss you around or you can stick you head up and swim like crazy. If you swim like crazy, you will gain confidence and strength. Then you learn to swim again.

My mother also taught me that you can’t please everyone. She taught me that just about the time you think you have achieved their praise, they change the rules of what they wanted and you begin to feel like a failure. I learned not to lease myself out to other people who make me doubt who I am, what I looked like, and what I’m doing.

I learned to pick honest, caring people to be my sounding boards and I hope you find the same kind of people in your life. I hope you can find people who aren’t afraid to give you an honest answer or a heartfelt, sincere compliment.

My mother used to be critical of others’ weight, especially mine. I have weighed everywhere from 110 to 180 pounds and guess what I never did hit mother’s magic number. I was too fat, too thin, gaunt, pale, or just didn’t look good. So I learned to stop trying to please the outside world and go for healthy–healthy in spirit, body, and mind. I learned that my value isn’t wrapped up in my size. My worth isn’t a number. So I invented some self-confidence from some negative experiences. I used those experiences to decide to find out who I really was.

I really started to figure all this out when I went to college.

I loved learning and that was never short-changed as I was growing up–from supportive teachers, encouraging relatives, and challenging siblings. Education was always important in my home. We all read a lot– mother read the World Book Encyclopedia through several times, Daddy read farm magazines, newspapers, his Sunday school lesson (he taught all through my life), and the Bible. We listened to radio, watched TV, and talked a lot. Of all those things the talking was the best–it gave my siblings me a chance to play with our ideas without fear. I carried that on into my family as I raised my girls.

We truly did talk about everything.

What you get out in the open you can deal with it and that helps build your confidence. I mastered that in my teaching (almost 50 years in education) let students have a safe place and a trusted person with whom they can share their ideas. It works wonder for everybody’s confidence and self-assuredness.

As you share you are establishing a system of values and that is what it is all about you can’t be confident about anything if you don’t have things that give meaning to your life. Find out what you truly believe in and what you are willing to make sacrifices for.

You can’t be something until you know what is out there to be. So I am always learning and therefore always inventing and reinventing myself.

Need help finding your confidence? Click here for more information.

To read the second installment entitled Why Some Women Always Appear Confident and Put Together, click here. 

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Tips

The Secret of Size 4 Women

Guess what, they’re not really a size 4.

You know why?

According to “One Size Fits Nobody” in the New York Times there is no standard size. That’s why we ignore it at Ruby, Inc. Our clients learn their their worth isn’t wrapped up in a number anyway so what’s the sense in counting?  It’s ridiculous.

As you’ll see from this infographic, sizing isn’t standard for designers so, if they haven’t figured out a standard system for clothing, how can you use it as a benchmark for anything?

Ignore sizing. It doesn’t determine your worth anyway. Buy clothes that fit.

Need help figuring that out? We know just the person to call.

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What Does Every Woman Including You Have in Common?

What does every woman including YOU have in common? No matter what your profession is, whether you’re a stay-at-home mom, a lawyer, or a businesswoman, there is one specific wish that that you’ve desired your entire life. It’s time to discover how to leverage this wish and how to use it to your advantage!

Starting Saturday, Feb. 18, Ruby, Inc. will be conducting a one-on-one personal styling sessions showing you step-by-step, how to save money while dressing 10 pounds thinner, and teaching you to finally feel beautiful.

But that’s not all. As of yesterday, the Plum Salon & Spa, is now offering a 10 percent discount to complete your look.

Ruby, Inc. in combination with Plum Salon & Spa will help you create a new look that will boost your confidence. Who knows? Maybe this will be the springboard that will help launch a promotion in your job or career, set your family up for success in every day life, or land your dream job.

ENROLL NOW

Ruby, Inc. is accepting appointments beginning Feb. 18, 2011 on a first come first serve basis.

Click here to e-mail Jasmine to request an appointment or call 717-517-8266.

Here’s Just Some of What You’ll Learn

• reduce stress
• realize there is no perfect body type
• combat women’s negative body images
• save time
• learn to replenish the basics
• find clothing that really works for them
• shop for special events
• improve comfort
• boost confidence
• develop style without breaking the bank

ENROLL NOW

Ruby, Inc. is accepting appointments beginning Feb. 18, 2011 on a first come first serve basis.

Click here to e-mail Jasmine to request an appointment or call 717-517-8266.

Do you have friends, family, or business associates who would benefit from a personal styling with Ruby, Inc. and the Plum Salon & Spa? Feel free to pass this blog along to them as well!

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Are You Embarrassed by Not Fitting into Your Clothes?

At Ruby, Inc. we’re only looking to work with women who are deadly serious about boosting their confidence. We only work with women who want to learn that there is no perfect body type. They must want to learn to combat their negative body images. We’re looking for women who want to pay attention and find clothing that really works for them so they can learn to make purchases without breaking the bank.

We’re looking for women who will take notes and follow directions on how to improve their confidence. We’re not just looking to find women who are looking to us for the answers, we’re looking for women who want to take this knowledge and use it themselves and rediscover themselves. So who’s in?

If you’re serious about moving your life forward, here’s the deal:

Starting Saturday, Feb. 18, Ruby, Inc. will be conducting a one-on-one personal styling sessions showing you step-by-step, how to save money while dressing 10 pounds thinner and we’re only taking clients who want to go along on this journey with us.

Beginning Feb. 18 Jasmine, Ruby, Inc.’s founder will also be giving you her biggest secrets to finding colors that work for your skin tone so that you can edit your wardrobe and make each piece look fabulous on you at a fraction of the cost. This topic has been one of the most requested topics in recent months. With the economy still on the rocks, global instability and inflationary concerns and ever-increasing costs of living, can you really afford not to get this information for you?

If you think you can wait until later… guess again.

Jasmine booked up through March within a week and if you miss this opportunity, it may be months before you can request and book a styling.

Learn to Dress Like a Million Bucks for Less than $100 In Record Time!

This is your chance to learn Ruby, Inc.’s proven system to look like you’ve lost 10 pounds while saving thousands. (If you don’t need or want to lose weight, trust me you do not want to let that stop you from taking advantage of this live training with Ruby, Inc.)

She will teach you her proven dress for your body type system, in step-by-step detail. This is the system Jasmine and her clients have used save thousands, develop personal style and look 10 pounds thinner. Now its your turn!

Women, from all over Lancaster County, have been requesting this information for months.

ENROLL NOW

Ruby, Inc. is accepting appointments beginning Feb. 18, 2011 on a first come first serve basis.

Click here to e-mail Jasmine to request an appointment or call 717-517-8266.

Here’s Just Some of What You’ll Learn

• reduce stress
• realize there is no perfect body type
• combat women’s negative body images
• save time
• learn to replenish the basics
• find clothing that really works for them
• shop for special events
• improve comfort
• boost confidence
• develop style without breaking the bank

ENROLL NOW

Ruby, Inc. is accepting appointments beginning Feb. 18, 2011 on a first come first serve basis.

Click here to e-mail Jasmine to request an appointment or call 717-517-8266.

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Testimonials

Reader Feedback to Embarrassment: Why It’s Critical to Dress For Your Body Type

A few days ago we shared about how Jasmine, the founder of Ruby, Inc. learned the hard way why it’s critical to dress for her body type. You can read all about that little blunder here. Evidently, this story resonated with a few of our readers. They shared it. They pinned it. They laughed and they wrote in to share their own embarrassing fiascoes.

I’d like to share one. Not to embarrass this reader but to show you that we all make mistakes. I’m going to call this reader “Roxy” to keep her real persona under cover. Here’s what you have to know about Roxy. She’s smart. She’s drop-dead-gorgeous. She’s talented, a mother, and after a distinguished career working for Senators and non-profits, she decided to go back to school.

Here’s why we’re sharing Roxy’s story. If she can be candid about the embarrassing blunders she’s had, then it’s time to stop beating yourself up. It’s time to stop fixing on this tiny imperfection or that. It’s time to stop fretting if your breasts are uneven, if you have some cellulite or a pesky whisker.

It’s time to realize that your worth is far above rubies.

Need some help figuring it out? Click here and in the meantime, enjoy Roxy’s tale.

I had my hair done. I got my nails done. I even bought a brand new little dress. I had the most confident smile stretched across my face. I’m not going to lie. I looked good.

I sauntered across the crowded dance floor not far behind my two girlfriends. I had a freshly made drink in hand, complete with tiny umbrella.

Just before I reached my friends, someone “Thriller” dancing accidentally smacked the drink right out of my hand and all over the dance floor.

Fifteen minutes later (the club was packed)…

With both perfectly manicured hands, I clutched my new glass and made my way back through the dance floor. My best friend waved me over from 10 feet away but through a hundred swaying and gyrating bodies.

I smiled and lifted my glass while mouthing the words, “Its ok. I got another one!”

Then, the unthinkable happened.

I stepped directly on the same spot where I spilled my last drink.

I was so busy looking up that I never bothered to look down and before I had time to react I tumbled into the biggest, slowest, most unbelievable banana peel slip-and-fall-and-land-on-your-back-moment in nightclub history.

It happened so fast yet so painfully slow.
Both stilettos went airborne with my feet still in them.

I landed flat on my back like a chalk drawing. I think I even twitched.

Stunned, I looked up and saw laughing faces, a disco light and cell phones pointed down at me. My dress was hiked up to my belly button and my toes were popped outside of one crooked shoe.

Don’t worry, Roxy. We still love you and you’re further proof that we can all have a little blunder now and again and still have worth beyond measure.

If you’re your own worst enemy, and you’re beating yourself up over blunders large and small, it’s time to call Ruby, Inc.

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