Know, first, who you are; and then adorn yourself accordingly. Epictetus
There is a quintessential difference between fashion and style. You buy fashion, but carry style. It is not about spending your last dollar to get the latest trend fresh off the runway when you lack the money and it does not work for you. Style is about knowing who you are, how you live, what you like and wearing it well at a price you can afford.
Write it down, talk it out. Be courageous enough to document it. Give yourself a vision so you know where you want to go.
Does it look like sweatpants, baggy shirts and Mom jeans? No? Then why are you doing it now? Why is it okay if it is not what you really want? Think about it. Your dislikes, and the way they make you feel, are just as important as what you love. It is time to reconsider your previous decisions and decide where you want to go.
Look at what you brainstormed. What things immediately pop out at you?
For me, classic shapes that were a little messy were appealing. I wanted to look cuter, comfier, sexier and slimmer than I was in actuality. I liked looks that were imperfect. But that was just my vision.
What is more important is to visualize yours. And to make time to do it.
In order to get your own sense of style you to give yourself permission to make changes in your life and move things around and head toward your vision. This means cleaning out your closet and tossing what fails to make you look spectacular. Burn the Granny Panties. Ditch the tattered bras. Get rid of the jeans you wore in college when you were however many pounds different than you are now.
What is the sense in carrying around pants that don’t fit, praying you’ll fit into them next year? Do they make you feel good about yourself? Do you need the clutter? You can get a tax deduction by donating them to Goodwill or the Salvation Army, so why don’t you. If you’re not wearing it, you don’t need it.
It’s just baggage.
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